Often surrogate and intended parents consider the possibility of unexpected medical issues or possible stillbirth. This is often covered in their surrogacy agreement.
A strong friendship is often formed between surrogate and intended parents as the surrogate mother sees the hopes and dreams of a family through the intended parents. The surrogate often sees surrogacy as giving a gift of life and bonding takes place.
The hopes, dreams, and attachment of the intended parents doesn’t only begin at birth. Intended parents are usually involved and participated in medical appointments during the pregnancy. Both sets of parents may attach and bond to the baby in a different ways.
The loss felt by both sets of parents is real. It is important that the attachment of each parent is acknowledged and that each loss is validated.