Stress Management: Helping Your Child With Stress Overview Stress can come from outside, such as family, friends, and school. It can also come from children themselves. Just like adults, children may expect too much of themselves and then feel stressed when they feel that they have failed.
Adults can help children and teens manage stress in many ways. Three important things you can do are to try to reduce the amount of stress in their lives, help them build positive coping skills, and teach them to let stress out.
How can you help your child with stress?
Reduce the amount of stress Here are some ways you can help reduce the amount of stress in your child's life.
Acknowledge your child's feelings. When children seem sad or scared, for example, tell them you notice that they are sad or scared. If you can, reassure them that you can understand why they would feel sad or scared.
Build trust. Let your child know that mistakes are learning experiences.
Be supportive. Listen to your child's concerns. Allow your child to try to solve their own problems, if you can. But offer to help and be available to your child when they need you. Be aware of what your child wants (not just what you want).
Hug your child often. Show love, warmth, and care.
Have clear expectations. Don't be too strict. Let your child know that co-operation is more important than competition.
Go easy on the schedule. Don't over-schedule your child.
Build positive coping skills It's important to help children learn positive coping skills. These skills are often carried into adult life.
Here are some ways you can help your child build good coping skills.
Provide a good example. Keep calm, and express your anger in appropriate ways. Think through plans to reduce stress, and share them with your family.
Teach them about consequences. Children need to learn about the consequences—good and bad—of their actions. For example, if they do all of their chores on time, they will get their allowance. If they break another child's toy, they must find a way to replace it.
Encourage rational thinking. Help your children understand what is fantasy and what is reality. For example, help them see that their behaviour didn't cause a divorce, or that they aren't failures because they weren't picked first for something.
Give them some control. Allow your children to make choices within your family framework. For example, allow them to arrange their rooms, choose family activities, and help make family decisions.
Emphasize the importance of a healthy lifestyle. Encourage them to be active and eat healthy foods.
Get the stress out Finding ways to get stress out of their systems will help children feel better. The best ways to relieve stress are different for each person. Try some of these ideas to see which ones work for your child.
Exercise. Regular exercise is one of the best ways to manage stress. For children, this means activities like walking, bike riding, outdoor play, and solo and group sports.
Write or draw. Older children often find it helpful to write about the things that are bothering them. Younger children may be helped by drawing about those things.
Let feelings out. Invite your child to talk, laugh, cry, and express anger when needed.
Do something fun. A hobby can help your child relax. Volunteer work or work that helps others can be a great stress reliever for older children.
Learn ways to relax. This can include breathing exercises, muscle relaxation exercises, massage, aromatherapy, meditating, praying, yoga, or relaxing exercises like tai chi and qi gong.
Laugh. Laughter really can be the best medicine. You can be a good role model in this area by looking for the humour in life. Your child can learn this valuable skill by watching you.
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