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Caring for an older adult with diabetes may feel like a lot to take on. Caregiving can be challenging at times because what seems best for your loved one may not be what they want. You may worry about invading your loved one's privacy or free will. There's also the stress of learning how to manage diabetes and often other health problems. No less important, you need good health and balance in your own life.
How can you be a good caregiver and take care of yourself? First, team up with your loved one and their doctor. And don't try to do it all.
As a caregiver, you likely have run into some problems when offering help. For example, the more you try to change how someone eats, the less agreement you get.
Stop and think a moment. When you're in need, how does it feel to accept help from another person? Do you feel relief, or gratitude? Maybe something else? How does it feel when you and your helper don't agree? No one likes to be told what to do, right?
That's why caregiving is an art. At its best, it's an other-centred way of thinking, asking, listening, and responding. That can mean:
A main goal of caregiving is to help your loved one have the best quality of life possible. To learn what that means for your loved one, try asking questions like:
Help and support in any way you can, based on your time and ability. If there are critical needs that you can't meet, talk about them with your loved one. Think about having more than one caregiver, or maybe a home health aide.
Here are some ways to help your loved one team up with his or her doctor to get the best care.
During doctor visits, you can help your loved one to:
Depending on how well your loved one can think, speak, and remember, you may be able to play a go-between role. Try asking your loved one guiding questions in front of the doctor, such as, "Do you understand this information? What do you think of that idea?"
The later years of life are an ideal time for the doctor and your loved one to share in medical decisions. Together, they can decide what to treat and how to treat it, based on your loved one's health and preferences.
If you see a need, help your loved one think through medical decisions such as:
It's important to understand what "eating smart" with diabetes means. It doesn't mean "no sugar" or only special diabetic foods. Instead, smart eating means:
You can use food to prevent big jumps and drops in your loved one's blood sugar. For example, eating only noodles makes blood sugar jump up, and then drop. It's because of the simple carbs. But eating noodles with some protein and fat, such as cheese, might help slow down the jump in blood sugar.
When a loved one with diabetes isn't eating well, it's easy to take on the role of "food police." The problem is that no one likes to be told how to eat. If you are struggling with this challenge, try to shift your approach. Here's an example.
Taking care of yourself is your most important step as a caregiver. Caregiving can be stressful, even in the best of situations. Here are some important things you need to find time to do—just for yourself.
You will meet other caregivers and learn new ways to deal with challenging situations. Visit www.canada.ca/en/employment-social-development/corporate/seniors/forum.html to find resources in your area.
You may feel better and sleep better if you exercise. One way is to be active in blocks of 10 minutes or more throughout your day and week. Experts say to aim for at least 2½ hours of moderate or vigorous activity a week.footnote 1
When you are busy giving care, it may seem easier to eat fast food than to prepare healthy meals. But healthy meals can be easy to prepare also, and healthy eating will give you more energy to carry you through each day.
If you aren't getting enough sleep at night, take a nap during the day. Plan to get at least one full night's rest each week.
For example, make time to read, listen to music, paint, do crafts, or play an instrument—even if you can only do it for a few minutes a day. If you like to go to church activities or take classes, ask a friend or family member to stay with your loved one for an hour or two once or twice a week so you can do those things.
This includes dental checkups. Even if you have always been healthy, you need to stay healthy. Know about the signs of depression, and watch for them not only in the person you are caring for but also in yourself. If you have feelings of lingering sadness or hopelessness, talk with your doctor.
Helping a loved one with health problems can be emotionally difficult. If you are having trouble coping with your feelings, seek advice and counselling from family members, trained mental health professionals, or spiritual advisors.
CitationsCanadian Society for Exercise Physiology (2011). Canadian Physical Activity Guidelines For Adults. Available online: http://www.csep.ca/CMFiles/Guidelines/CSEP_PAGuidelines_adults_en.pdf. Accessed October 28, 2014.
Current as of: October 18, 2021
Author: Healthwise StaffMedical Review: Kathleen Romito MD - Family MedicineAdam Husney MD - Family MedicineDavid C.W. Lau MD, PhD, FRCPC - Endocrinology
Current as of: October 18, 2021
Author: Healthwise Staff
Medical Review:Kathleen Romito MD - Family Medicine & Adam Husney MD - Family Medicine & David C.W. Lau MD, PhD, FRCPC - Endocrinology
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