It can be hard to know how to show care and concern when someone you know is struggling with alcohol use. Your support can make a big difference.
Sometimes it’s even harder if the person does not see a problem, and they think that you are overreacting.
The most important thing to remember is you can't make anyone change or see things the way you see them.
Here are ideas for offering support:
Focus on how you feel
When you talk to someone about their alcohol use, focus on how you feel about it. Use “I” statements and give specific examples. You might say, "When you got drunk at our friend’s party, I felt really mad and embarrassed."
You are focusing on a real event and how it made you feel.
Have a caring conversation
Be supportive and say clearly how you feel about the person. For example, "I love you very much, and I'm worried about your alcohol use and how it affects your life and our relationship."
Set clear boundaries and limits
If you can, say clearly what you want or expect from the person. For example, "I want us to see a counsellor about how your alcohol use is affecting us."
If you don’t get a positive answer, you might need to set limits on what you're willing to do. The limit you set should be something you can stick to. For example, don't say you're going to do something if the person doesn't stop using alcohol unless you’re able to do it.
Encourage them to get support
If you’re concerned about someone, there is help. There are many kinds of support available.
The person you’re concerned about might not be ready to admit there’s a problem and might not want help at the time. This is not something you can control.
Some options include:
- accessing information through handouts and brochures, books, videos, and websites
- information sessions and counselling
- treatment programs and withdrawal management (online and in person)
- self-help groups, like Alcoholics Anonymous
- Recovery Alberta for information on recovery planning and mental health supports
- wrap-around services in your community, such as employment and housing to support longer-term wellness
- Alberta-based websites:
