When you found out you were pregnant you probably started to plan for your baby’s birth. When you’re told that your baby has died, all your hopes and dreams are crushed. Some people are shocked to learn that they will have to deliver their baby. This can be a very difficult and confusing time for expectant parents. Everyone responds differently. You may feel flooded with emotion, feel numb or in shock, or somewhere in between. It will take time to come to understand what is happening. Your healthcare team is here to guide you. They can help you decide on the next steps and to provide you with what you want and need during this time. They can provide you support, help you find out about resources, and answer any questions you have. Your physical and emotional health is important and we want you to get the information you need.
In addition to the doctors and nurses, your healthcare team includes a social worker, spiritual care advisor and aboriginal hospital liaison worker. Let your healthcare provider know if you would like to talk to any of these team members. You may also wish to see a leader from your cultural or spiritual community. Spiritual care staff can help arrange any practices, rituals, or connections with community leaders you might need or want. You or your family may find it helpful to visit a hospital chapel or a sacred space.
Right now you may see your loss as just something that is happening to your body. You may not develop feelings of loss until later. That’s okay. It’s never too late to explore your grief, get support, or find ways to remember your baby. There are no right or wrong questions or decisions at this time. Not everyone needs the same amount of information right away, so read the sections you need. You can always come back for more information later.