When a pregnancy ends in a loss, you and your partner may go through a wide range of feelings and emotions. Some parents may accept the loss of their baby as another life experience they have to deal with and move on. For others the loss can be overwhelming and it takes longer. These reactions are very individual. There is no right or wrong way to feel.
The feeling of connection you had with your baby during the pregnancy will impact how you feel after your loss. It helps to acknowledge your sadness and disappointment. Allow yourself the time and space to grieve, and to feel emotional pain. Healing from loss is a process and takes time and effort to heal.
If you’re blaming yourself for what happened, please remember and know there is nothing you did to cause the loss of your baby. Your lifestyle, diet, or sexual activity are not responsible for the loss of the pregnancy. There are many unknowns in a stillbirth and often there is no answer to the question of “why”.
The loss of a pregnancy or baby is often considered as one of the most difficult losses a person can experience. Many parents have said that taking time to say goodbye in a meaningful way helped them at the time of loss, and later, through the grief process.