Healing is a process that is unique to each person. Here are some ways that may help you make meaning out of a suicide loss and begin the journey of healing.
Talk about it
Talk about your memories of the person who died by suicide. Talk to people you're comfortable with and who will listen. They don't need to have gone through the suicide with you.
Sometimes friends and family want to help but don't know what to do. They may feel uncomfortable talking about suicide or worried about upsetting you. They might act strangely and not mention the suicide at all. These are common reactions, but don't let them stop you from talking about it when you need to.
When you're ready, let people know it's OK to talk about the person who died, and they can help you by listening. Most people really care, they just don't know how to help.
Do what works for you
Remember to do what feels right for you, not what pleases other people. It’s OK to take time for yourself. Other times, you may want to be with other people and do something that helps you to stop thinking about the suicide. That’s OK too.
Talk to people who understand
It can help to talk to others who have lost someone to suicide. Sharing an experience can be healing. Many organizations offer bereavement groups. Find a group that makes you feel comfortable to listen and share. Visit the
Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention to find a grief or bereavement program near you.
Focus on self-care
Self-care is all about looking after yourself, and it can be different for everyone. Explore your interests and try activities that support you on your healing journey.
For some people, self-care can include:
- spending time in nature
- writing in a journal
- taking naps and prioritizing rest
- snuggling with pets
- moving your body in whatever way feels good
- connecting with friends and family
- expressing your creativity through painting, cooking, or singing
Healing from loss
Healing from a suicide loss is unique to each person. Here are some things to remember as you heal:
- Take one moment or one day at a time. Give yourself time.
- Get professional help if you need it.
- Be patient with yourself and with others who may not understand what you’re going through.
- Set limits, and say no when you need to.
- Be aware that your family and friends may also be feeling pain.
- Find someone to talk to who is a good listener that you feel comfortable with.
- You may be surprised by how strong your feelings are. It’s OK to express them.
- Don’t be afraid to cry or laugh when you need to.
