Healing doesn't mean forgetting. It means feeling less pain as you heal. Here are some ways you can help yourself heal.
Talk about your memories of the person who died by suicide. Talk to people you're comfortable with and who will listen. They don't need to have gone through the suicide with you.
Sometimes friends and family want to help but don't know what to do. They may feel uncomfortable talking about suicide or worried about upsetting you. They might act strangely and not mention the suicide at all. These are normal reactions, but don't let them stop you from talking about it when you need to.
When you're ready, let people know it's OK to talk about the person who died, and they can help you by listening. Most people really care but just don't know how to help.
Remember to do what feels right for you, not what pleases other people. It’s OK to take time for yourself. Other times, you may want to be with other people and do something that helps you to stop thinking about the suicide. That’s OK too.
It can help to talk to others who have lost someone to suicide. Sharing an experience can be healing. Many organizations offer bereavement groups to help you cope. Find a group that makes you feel comfortable to listen and share. Visit the
Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention to find a grief or bereavement program near you.
You may find comfort in keeping items that remind you of the person you lost, such as clothing, jewelry, furniture, or one of their favourite things.
It’s important to know you will get through this hard time. You may not think you can now, but you will. Here are some things to remember as you heal:
As time passes, it will be easier to cope with your loss. Whatever you do, make sure it feels right to you.
Current as of: March 22, 2021
Author: Provincial Injury Prevention, Alberta Health Services
This material is not a substitute for the advice of a qualified health professional. This material is intended for general information only and is provided on an "as is", "where is" basis. Although reasonable efforts were made to confirm the accuracy of the information, Alberta Health Services does not make any representation or warranty, express, implied or statutory, as to the accuracy, reliability, completeness, applicability or fitness for a particular purpose of such information. Alberta Health Services expressly disclaims all liability for the use of these materials, and for any claims, actions, demands or suits arising from such use.