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After Your Miscarriage

Your emotional health

When a pregnancy ends in a loss, you and your partner may go through a wide range of feelings and emotions. Some parents may accept the loss of their baby as another life experience they have to deal with and move forward. For others, the loss can be overwhelming, and it takes longer. These reactions are very individual. There is no right or wrong way to feel. Learn more about the grief journey and watch the video series A parent’s view of pregnancy and infant loss to hear personal stories from parents who have lost a baby.

Emotional support

Family and friends

Surround yourself with close family and friends and allow them to help you during this time. Often they’ll know you’re grieving, but they may not know how to support or help you. Let them know how they can help. For example, ask them to prepare meals, talk about your loss, come for visits, or just be with you. It’s OK to talk about what you want and need so that your family and friends can support you. You need time to grieve, rest, and connect with your partner.

Family and friends can learn more about grief and how to help at supporting friends and family after a miscarriage.

Healthcare supports

Sometimes it’s hard to talk to your family and friends about how you feel. Let your healthcare provider know if you’d like support from a social worker, spiritual care advisor, Indigenous Hospital Liaison, or a leader from a cultural or spiritual community.

A spiritual care advisor can help arrange for any practices or rituals, or they can help with connections to community leaders that you might need. You or your family members may also want to go to a sacred space or a place for spiritual support.

Learn more about finding support after a miscarriage.

Going home

Going home after a loss can be very emotional. The experience can feel sudden, unexpected, or even like a bad dream.

Once you’re home, you may notice you feel many different emotions including sadness, anger, or frustration. Some parents say that they feel alone and empty inside when they come home after the loss.

For some families, taking the baby home for a short time is an important part of grieving. If this is something you’d like to do, talk to your healthcare provider.

It may be difficult to arrange the time off over the next few days. It’s important that you have time to rest or have time to go to the hospital or clinic for appointments. Talk to your healthcare provider if you need some time off from work or school.

Your feelings

It’s normal after a miscarriage to feel tired or be very sad, or to cry. If these feelings last more than a few weeks or if you feel overwhelmed by your loss, talk to your family doctor or a grief counsellor. You may also find that it helps to go to a support group where you can meet others who have had a similar loss.

Even though miscarriages are common, your pregnancy was likely very important to you and your partner. There’s no right or wrong way to feel. Some parents quickly accept miscarriage as another life experience, while others are overwhelmed or devastated by the loss. It’s important to remember that everyone reacts differently.

Some parents might want to get pregnant right away, while others feel they need more time to work through their grief. If you’re worried and anxious about getting pregnant again, talk to a grief counsellor or your doctor.​​​​

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